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I dub thee…

Posted by Týr on September 4, 2007

So at Floating World 10 days (or so) ago, I decided to take part in the Labels Panel, partly because my good friend Eileen was moderating the panel, but mostly because I am actually interested in language and how it’s used. I would have to say my greatest intellectual interest in this is what names and pronouns to use for my transgender friends when referring to their pre-transition times. But I digress…

One of the things that struck me about how vehemently this one trans-man (I forget his name) opposed labels for being too confining. Now I never really had any gender identity issues that I’ve had to deal with. Likewise, being heterosexual spared me from any teasing/abuse I may have received (though frankly I doubt it would have happened at my school). Still, whenever I feel like I have to describe myself for whatever reason, such as my Tale of Týr page, I too find labels horribly retarded. How do you distill who you are, whether in a couple of words or in a treatise? I find this incredibly annoying and difficult, and I have no problem describing myself as a heterosexual male. Not ever having had to use it myself, I feel like the term “gender-queer” is more a definition by exclusion than an actual definition. I seriously couldn’t imagine having define myself by playing Botticelli let alone envisioning how to deal with a problem like choosing which bathroom feels more comfortable. (Personally, I believe that bathrooms in places where one doesn’t assume that men just spray everywhere (which seems to be any public bathroom, such as concerts, stadia, etc) should be unisex, but that isn’t really relevant to this entry). But I digress… so now I move on.

Sure, labels suck. I know that I would leave out a Metric Fuckton if I tried to use 5 words to describe myself: heterosexual, toppish-switch, engineer, German, metal-head. I just thought of something purely for the sake of my own curiosity: while I could indeed easily list another 15 words to describe me, I was wondering which five words you, beautiful reader, would use to describe me. Please don’t use any of the words I used. Whether you want to bar words that other people have used is up to you.

So, if labels are acknowledged by all to suck, why do we continue to confine ourselves to the narrow definitions that all labels have? The simple reason is that otherwise no communication would happen. All communication inherently contains some uncertainty, thanks to different nuances in precise definition and, to use Maymay’s terminology, the fact that speech has no checksum. Labels simply have the same drawbacks inherent to speech itself. Yes, it’s a shame that when using labels you feel like you need a seemingly endless array of them if you want to get remotely close to actually defining yourself.

The thing is, if we simply chose not to, we’d just be staring at each other nicely talking about the weather. And that shit happens way too much already.


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Floating World

Posted by Týr on August 30, 2007

So this past weekend was Floating World, and like Maja would say, it was a life-changing experience. In some way have I never felt quite so comfortable with who I am as I did there. But why did I feel so comfortable there? I can’t say that I learned something that blew my mind away. I didn’t meet anyone who swept me off my feet (well, literally speaking). Does this mean that kink is a bigger part of my life than I had thought? I think I shall save that thought for a later date.

So the first day there, while watching Jefferson‘s presentation about the G- and P-spot we met two other young-folk like ourselves, Switch and Boy with whom our entire group of friends hit it off, but Maja and I most of all. They are fantastic and funny and awesome. Sadly, we only found out then that they lived in upper Manhattan the entire summer and we didn’t know about them. Hell, they were even at Folson Street East but we somehow didn’t get to know each other then. Enough with the rant about not having gotten to know them sooner.

Since they are both “rope geeks” and were more than happy to practice their talents, they ended up suspending Maja, May, and myself. Maja absolutely loved it, as did May. My experience was a little less pleasant, not because of anything that Switch, Boy, or Dov (who was helping our new friends) did wrong, but because my body simply decided that it didn’t want to be part of such a new experience and decided to clench up every muscle that I have. To the extent that I was sore the next day. That being said, I’d love to do it again. It’s one of those weird experiences that in retrospect is awesome, but at the time was not entirely enjoyable.

Out of the blue on Saturday, Eileen came up to Maja and I and told us that she wanted to do a take-down with Maymay and that’s all she knew. I immediately offered her the use of my spandex hood for the scene, which she very gladly accepted. Luckily I packed it that day. Come 12 hours later, Maymay gets abducted and beaten pretty much as planned. While I’d try to describe it, Maja and myself fairly soon peeled off and did our own scene while Maymay was still being taken care of, so I’d suggest you try reading Eileen’s account of it.

Sadly, the rest of the weekend is kind of a blut-of-awesome. Not a moment of boredom, of ennui. Just all this stuff going on around me, all of it awesome. I can’t wait for next year.

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Thought I’d join the party.

Posted by Týr on August 13, 2007

You know, I technically already have a blog for this kinda stuff. Somehow I just grew out of having a livejournal. It seems a little too angsty/adolescent/etc somehow.

So what am I going to be posting here? I don’t know what exactly right now – it’ll probably be whatever comes into my head. It’ll at least be vaguely related to kink/BDSM/bondage/S&M. I guess I’ll start off with an intro.

By day, I’m a humble structural engineer. By night, I’m mostly asleep. In between, I like to hit my girlfriend whenever she lets me do so. Considering that technically I’ve been kinky for almost 4 years now you’d think that I’ve done more than I actually have. I guess that’s what being overly worried that your roommates will hear and the fear of awkwardness (definitely an issue with my current roommates) will do to you. 

I’m a fairly regular attendee of Conversio Virium and it seems that most of my current social circle is taken from its ranks without ever really having made the effort. I’m quite good friends with Eileen and Maymay and in fact they live only a few hundred feet or meters (either applies really) from my own domicile. I’m going to be going to Floating World and will be paying for it hard labor.

As for my pseudonym, I wanted to take a name from mythology, but didn’t want to choose one from Greek or Roman mythology. Now, I’m somewhat of a contrarian (my girlfriend M will disagree with the “somewhat” part), so that ruled out those sources. That, plus the fact that I’m German, made me want to go with Germanic mythology. The closest I could find was Norse, and after looking through the names for a couple days I went with Týr because I wanted a name that went with one of my initials and he seemed like a cool source of the name (though I still have to read the Edda to confirm that for myself). Now I feel like joining the fray that exists online for no particular reason. In fact, judging by how much free time I have on a given weekday to do this kinda stuff, I shouldn’t. But then again, there will be plenty of time to sleep when I’m dead. Which is hopefully a long ways away.

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